September 23, 2008

  • I feel it's safe to say that most every teenage boy probably has a wish to be more independent from their parents. The idea to accomplishing that wish was simply to get older and "be an adult." As a young teenager, the idea of "being an adult" simply means having the right to drink alcohol, to drive a car, to have a job and buy anything you want and have your own place, etc... As someone who has been living their adult years for quite some time now, I have to say that my life for the most part has been what I wished it to be when I was in my teenage years. (Lawful) Freedom and independence is what I have right now, and teenagers don't have it wrong in wanting to be an adult.

    One incentive for teens to strive for that freedom and independence is as it always is for guys, to get a girl. That's where I have to point out a caution sign here. Women are great and all, but if you want to keep your freedom and independence, it's important to realize that you then do not want to get somebody pregnant. Having a child is a tremendously huge responsibility, which means that you'll have to dedicate a large chunk of your time and money to raise that kid, which also means that you have to forget about that freedom and independence. It's great if you want to have a child, but don't you dare complain about losing your freedom and independence because of that. Having a child will give you totally different options to live life, but a lot of that isn't going to be the ones a teenager probably thinks much about in that wish to be an adult.

    Honestly speaking here, I'm not mentally ready to have a child yet, so I do not want one. Being that I'm married and all, there's a chance that I might get one, and that fact can't be avoided. That teenage wish for all the perks of being an adult, will be all gone once a child is entered into my life. If it does happen, it will literally change my way of living, making me a different person, with so many different sets of priorities. Is that what I want to happen? That's a question everybody has to make before they take the plunge to have a child, and unfortunately there's a lot of people out there who has to learn that the hard way.